Why Writing is Like a Relationship
Quit squirming in your chair. We’re not going in that direction.
It isn’t uncommon to feel inadequate in your relationship. Maybe your friend is better at cooking than you. Maybe your spouse understands computers and technology on a level you don’t get (that’s me – I don’t even understand Twitter, for godssakes). Your child desperately wants to take dance class, but no matter how you finagle it, it just won’t fit in the budget. Tell me you don’t feel like a shitty parent before you even break the news to the kid.
Am I good enough?
We all think it.
Short answer: No.
Longer answer: No one is.
Explanation: We all ask this question because we all measure ourselves as compared to someone else. No one is awesome at everything. It cannot be done. You can be good at a bunch of stuff, great at a few things, but awesome at even less. The question itself “Am I good enough?” is flawed.
It’s the question and the thoughts behind it that make you feel inadequate in a relationship. And at writing.
Am I good enough to be a writer smacks of comparisons to Hemingway, King, Shakespeare and Tolkien just to pluck a few random names out of a hat. They busted their asses for years to get where they were. Tolkien’s Lord of the Rings was totally trashed by critics when it first came out.
The only way you stop being inadequate at something is to try. And fail. And try again. And fail again. Then maybe take a step back to look at things from a different angle. There’s rarely only one solution to any given problem. Just stop thinking that question.
That one question is the source of your sense of inadequacy.
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